The last two topics for having a happy, healthy life didn’t get many votes, only two each (out of 218). That doesn’t make them any less important. The first one I’m going to go over is solitude.
Being an über introvert, this comes easily to me. It’s socializing that’s different. But for many people, finding time for themselves is not easy or even unwanted. I have a friend that hates being alone because that’s when his mind turns on and he can’t stop going over all the things that bother him. For people like him, solitude is almost scary. Although it may seem overwhelming, solitude is necessary to everyone’s health.
I’m not saying someone needs to spend quality time with themselves for hours on end, just 15 minutes a day can have many benefits. Spending time alone brings out creativity that is solely yours. When you’re surrounded by other people, their opinions impact your views. When the world is screaming around you, quiet time alone can help calm raging emotions and help sort through problems you otherwise couldn’t. Spending time learning who you are, helps you understand yourself and love yourself. You have the chance to learn who you are, what you want, and what you need. Arthur Schopenhauer said, “A man can be himself only so long as he is alone, and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom, for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.”
In a world that is constantly on the go, it can be difficult to find a few minutes to be alone. Getting up early is always an option, but that just isn’t something I’m capable of. Taking a few minutes of time for yourself during a lunch break at work is a great way to get that time in. Sometimes when the kids are crazy and there is too much going on that I can’t focus, I’ll go to the bathroom or hide away in the closet for just a little bit of peace. It’s ok to allow yourself a few minutes away to collect yourself.
Being able to find time for yourself, away from the rest of the world brings a peace and understanding that is hard to find around other people.
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Faustino, Arvin. “Loving Solitude: Why Quality Time Alone Is Essential to Your Well-Being.” Goalcast, 7 Sept. 2017, http://www.goalcast.com/2017/09/07/power-solitude-important-spend-alone-time/.